Chapter 4: The Soulmates Journey

A Soulmates Marriage is both a journey and a destination.  If we were journeying to a specific destination we would most likely use Google Maps.  We would then follow the guidance of our GPS and get there without a problem, generally speaking.  Similarly, there are directions to obtaining a Soulmates Marriage.  There are rules to this game.  

"One person of wisdom observed, 'Laws are the rules by which the game of life is played.' In reality, they are much more; for obedience to law is an essential requirement if we are to be successful in our quest for the abundant life." ~President Thomas S. Monson, "In Quest for the Abundant Life," March 1988 Ensign

In the first three chapters I identified a few of the rules of the Soulmates Journey:

The first is determining if we really believe it’s possible to obtain a Soulmates Marriage as described in Chapter 1.  If so, how badly do we want it?  Are we willing to sacrifice all that it takes to obtain it?

The second rule is deciding with whom we want to obtain that relationship.  Even if we're struggling with our marriage, we need to assume it's with our present spouse to start (#Chasity).

The third rule is for husband and wife to both decide on the same Marriage Counselor.  There can be a number of people on our Marriage Counselor team but there needs to be someone at the head of that team. We need to choose God to be that head because it is uncertain if any other Counselor has the capacity to play that role.  That means we believe that obtaining a Soulmates Marriage can only be guaranteed if we choose God to be the head of our Marriage Counselor team. 

The fourth rule is to learn from him and his team members what the rest of the rules of the Soulmates Marriage game are.  We receive these step by step, line upon line. We are not able to handle the more advanced rules that require more intense sacrifice in the beginning of our journey.  Incremental revelation of the mysteries of God has always been one of the rules of the general game to obtain immortality and eternal life (Alma 12:10).  "He that hath ears to hear, let him hear" (Mark 4:23).  In fact I've been taught that we can’t hear higher level laws or understand them until we are obeying lower level laws, seeking for more knowledge and understanding, and being ready to implement it.