Chapter 38: Valuable

Our commitment level to our Values demonstrates the might, mind, and strength we each personally have to love God (Matthew 22:36-40).  The level that we love God is our Love Language Proficiency (see Chapter 8). 

“Repentance involves a change of heart and a desire to forsake sin and serve God.  It involves humbly yielding to the Spirit and submitting to God’s will.  It requires that people increase their commitment to live in agreement with God’s will.  Repentance requires a sincere and lasting change of thoughts, desires, habits, and actions.  It is a positive experience that brings joy and peace.” ~Preach My Gospel, pg. 8

With that same proficiency and commitment level, we love our spouse.  This may make us think that everyone should be hiking to the top of the mountain to prove their love to God and their spouse, otherwise our Love Language will not be of any value at all.  But that’s not true.  That's black and white.  Real Value is not a black and white judgment.  We all have different dispositions and temperaments.  What is required is that we love with all of our own might, mind, and strength, not with all of someone else’s.  We hike to the top of our own personal mountain-relationship with God.  We’re not all competing against each other to see who can love God the most.  That’s dumb.  We are true to our hearts.  Wherever we end up on the Mountain of the Lord, if it is to our personal satisfaction level and to our God's, then that is VALUABLE!  That is our mountain.  That journey is of the greatest worth to us and to everyone else in the kingdom of God.  We bloom where we are planted.  We determine or identify who we are and where we want to settle.

So not everyone needs to climb to the top of the general mountain or even to the same level that we have climbed to ourselves.  But we need to climb together and to the same level as our spouse if we desire a Soulmates Marriage with Sustainable Attraction.  That basically means we Desire to journey together and we have the same destination in mind.  Our Love Language Proficiency needs to be similar when we first meet our spouse, throughout our marriage, and in the end (#EndureToTheEnd).  This is achieved by marrying someone with a similar Rate of Progression as we have OR a person who has the Desire to change, through the Atonement of Jesus Christ, his/her Rate of Progression to match our own (see Chapter 17).  There will be times when we’ll have different levels but the hope is that those are transitory and that in the end we are balanced with and by one another.

“There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated—And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.” ~D&C 130:20-21