Chapter 40: Belonging

Our Savior, Jesus Christ came down to earth to demonstrate and teach us exactly what God’s Values are.  The closer a Bridegroom’s sacrifice approaches his, the more he becomes like the Lord to his wife and children. 

The Holy Ghost bears witness of Jesus Christ.  The only way that can be done is if he has come to know our Savior very well.  The only way to come to know him so well is to sacrifice our Survival Strategies and all of the World's conflicting Values for God’s as Christ did.  I have likened (1 Nephi 19:23) a Wise Virgin-wife and her relationship with her Bridegroom-husband to the relationship between Jesus Christ and the Holy Ghost.  The Holy Ghost's special mission is to testify of Christ.    
A Wise Virgin has a special mission to testify of her husband.  She sees the Values of Christ in him and cannot help but to admire and appreciate him for it.  It's almost as if her heart has a life and will of its own.  When she sees attributes that are like Christ's in a man, it fills with the greatest Joy she has ever felt.  She just shakes her head in astonishment and whispers, "He is utterly and completely beautiful!" 

She bears witness of him.  She privately dwells on her love for him (Chastity:  Reciprocity Attraction).  He is the best thing ever!  She speaks of him and how beautiful he is to her children and to others because it brings her Joy.  She doesn’t do this to brag.  She does it to rejoice.

To be a Bridegroom and a Wise Virgin requires husband and wife to be able to trust each other implicitly.  Each trusts that the other is being true to his/her promises and covenants to God when people are watching and when they are not (#Integrity, #Chastity, #Faithfulness).  That’s because both are totally giving up their lives and any other place they could belong for God and for each other.  They have to humbly depend on the other for their Joy.  Their whole commitment is to not derive it from other sources if that causes too steep of a slope between them.  When one falls short of the other, the Savior carries them and the Holy Ghost comforts them while they get to the place where they can repent, forgive each other, and resume their progression.  The hope is that eventually they will become so much like the Savior and the Holy Ghost that they will fall short of each other less and less (John 10:34, 1 Corinthians 11:11).

So you see how important it is in a Soulmates Marriage to consider both our relationship with God and our relationship with our spouse.  The second is dependent upon the first.  Knowing these laws enables husband and wife who both desire to obtain a Soulmates Marriage above all other things to take hold of the reigns and guide their marriage to Sustainable Attraction.  It is completely within their control.  The choice is theirs.  Yet it doesn’t belong to just one.  It must be a mutually consistent balanced desire and commitment.