Chapter 35: Love Language Proficiency

To review, God’s Love Language is Charity.  He loves us in our own Love Language.  He enters the exact code for each of us, enabling us to reach Self-Actualization.  It is the best feeling in the world.  The more we develop our communication relationship with him, the more we are attracted to him.  The more we come to know God, the better we speak his language.  How well we speak God's Love Language determines the intensity of our own Love Language.  It determines the intensity level of our Attraction and thus our Love Language Proficiency.

“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth:” ~1 Corinthians 13:4-8

“But charity is the pure love of Christ, and it endureth forever; and whoso is found possessed of it at the last day, it shall be well with him.” ~Moroni 7:47
 
Those who have a similar Love Language Proficiency are Romantically attracted to each other.  Those who differ too widely from each other are not.

Influencing Factors
What factors influence our Love Language Proficiency?  One factor is age.  Sometimes we just need more time to learn more about God through our own life experience.  When we experience Adversity and apply the Values of our Religion, we come to understand why these are the Values that end in Self-Actualization.  

Another factor is our personal Destiny, which includes our own personal Attraction to God.  How much are we drawn to him?  How much do we want to understand him?  How close do we want to come to him?  The closer we get, the higher the Values we will be required to obey.  When we’re at a distance we might be able to get by with living by the letter of the law (Law of Moses).  Coming closer requires us to live by the Spirit of the law (Law of Christ).  There are greater privileges for coming closer but there are also greater responsibilities.  The level of desire that each of us has to draw closer to God determines the amount of time we spend on a daily basis learning about him and his Values and then applying them.

“For of him unto whom much is given much is required; and he who sins against the greater light shall receive the greater condemnation.” ~D&C 82:3

Listen:  "What Do I Know of Holy" by Addison Road

So this is why spiritually older people are not usually Romantically attracted to spiritually younger people and vice versa. Yet it is true that even though someone is physically older than us, we can still be Romantically attracted to them if we are at a similar Love Language Proficiency.

Listen:  "Get Closer" by Seals and Crofts